During my intense research this weekend, while trying to tackle and unravel a challenge of my own, I found a lot of advice out on the Internet... that didn't help me at all. It actually made things worse.
As a Motherless Daughter, we try so hard to find the answers we need out there. It's 2 a.m. and I can't possibly call my best friend to talk. So I pop online hoping to discover the reason, the answers, behind why I act the way I act - why I said what I said - why I feel what I felt, and the worse - if I should do this or that (ugh, I hate when I get into that awful cycle). I want so desperately to be told, that I am okay, that I am not a big freak. And I found online that 50% of the time I'll hear what I want, and 50% of the time I won't.
If you look hard enough, you can find anything online to justify what you need justified. If you look hard enough, you'll also find the exact opposite.
Where did I get the best advice then? From the people who know me. From the folks who've known me a long time and intimately understand where I come from. From those who maybe haven't known we for years but are still caring friends. And I even got some good advice from myself (when I shut up long enough to listen).
And why did it work? Because I am person with a history. I am a person with unique circumstances. Because I am not a nameless, bodiless entity. And a website, especially a commercial one, can't possibly know that.
The next part though, once you know what needs to be done, is actually going about and doing it. And that is where I am right now. Maybe some website can't give me the best advice, but the Classics did. So here, in case you need a little dose of courage (like I do today), is what I did find online.
A few words of wisdom from Virgil:
Fortune favors the brave.
Hope on, and save yourself for prosperous times.
-TL
2 comments:
It's amazing to have a good support system. Of friends, family, even blog buddies and co workers, you can just lean on. Vent to, ask for advice and listen even if you don't use it.
That's what has helped me so much.
big hugggsss to you!!!!
So Catherine/Ice Cream Cover Up told me that I should check out your blog because we might be on the same page with a lot of things. I thought I'd comment and say that I like the Virgil quote, it might be just the right kind of quote for me right now...
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